Him,
I know you just left me not so long ago, but I regret having you take me here. I wish I would have stayed with you today.
I want you to know how sorry I am for cutting you off. I thought I could fix things at home. I blamed myself for the trouble in my relationship and that I wasn’t the women I needed to be for him. However, I did not want you to cloud my judgment in my decision, so I decided having no contact with you would be the best route to go.
Now, it appears I have not fixed anything. It does not matter who I am he isn’t the man I need him to be. He takes me for granted and can easily just walk all over me. Why? Because I fucking let him! Of course he is going to do this to me, I let him.
He didn’t even know I was gone last night. Just rolled in climbed into our bed and went to sleep. He doesn’t care about others, just himself. I feel so broken down and so used. I want to escape, I really do. I am screaming on the inside for help, but no one hears me, not even myself. I don’t know how to get out of this mess I created.
I feel so alone …
Without finishing my thoughts and even thinking I hit send. This was the first time I had voiced my feelings to anyone else. Though it felt good, I felt a twinge of guilt within me. I created this mess I am in and this is the pain I deserved, was it not?
The hot tears burned my eyes and I let go. I sobbed and sobbed until I had no more tears in me. It felt good to really let go. I never learned how to deal with my emotions. I was stubborn and never wanted to admit defeat or failure. Maybe that is why I could not pull away from this relationship. In the past I was always the one dumped, to me that was better than admitting I failed.
After calming myself down I dove into work. Work had always been my coping mechanism and it was what I knew. The day slipped away as I got a head start on my work week. I wanted to take some time to myself while he was gone for the week so I inteded to get a good start so I could take a few days off while he was away.
When I saw I had a new email a smile brushed a crossed my face and I quickly opened it.
My Dearest Friend,
Are you alright? Do you need me to come get you?
Me
I frowned at myself, it was not my goal to worry him, I just needed to get a few things off my chest.
Him,
I am fine, I just needed to get thoughts and feelings out. I have not done so in a long time. I am sorry you were my sounding board, but I really needed it.
Your Dearest Friend
I waited anxiously for his reply, would he be upset?
My Dearest Friend,
Please do not apologize for letting your feelings out. I am always here for you. You should know that by now. I’m sorry if I have let you down in any way. The time I spend with you is dear to my heart, and I do not know what I would do if I had not found you.
I am here to support you in any way you need. I will listen to you, comfort you, or anything else you need. Even if you just need a shoulder to cry on about him, I will still be here for you.
Love always,
Me
It was emotional day and as I read his e-mails tears filled my eyes again. I was so torn on what to do. I knew what the right decision was in my heart, but my head told me something different. Why is it always hard to do what you know is right in your heart. Is it because I know I’ll break somebody’s heart or is it because I’m not brave enough to do it?
Him,
I hope you realize that I am here for you as well. It breaks my heart that for so many years we were part. You always were my best friend regardless of the past. We cannot change the path we chose to take, but I do hope that nothing separates us again in the future.
I know what I need to do in my heart, but there is a battle between my heart and my head. I don’t know why it’s always so hard to follow through. I guess maybe because I’m not good at this. It is hard to hurt someone who loves you. And as you know I’ve been hurt a lot my past, which makes it harder to hurt someone else, regardless of their actions.
When I’m near you I feel the love you have for radiating off your body. It fills me with comfort and warmth, something I’ve not felt since all those years ago. It amazes me that after all these years I still get that from you.
Love always,
Your Dearest Friend
Anxiety pulsed through me after I sent that. I felt like my confusion may bring rejection, something I was not good at dealing with. But I must tell him how I feel, or I may live in regret. I waited for his response and grew sick with worry when I did not get one back. Maybe I scared him off and he was done with me. That could not be though, he insisted he would not lose me again without a fight.
My Dearest Friend,
Where is he?
Me
I wondered why he asked, this seemed like such an odd question to me.
Him,
He is out with friends, golfing I believe. He left shortly after I got home this morning. Why do you ask?
Your Dearest Friend
My mind continued to wonder even after my response, where was he going with this?
My Dearest Friend,
I was just curious. It seems he is never there for you. I just do not understand …
When can I see you again?
Me
My heart was racing. I knew I wanted to see him again, but when? Then a smile slipped a crossed my face and I knew the answer.
Him,
He leaves for a trip Weds morning and will be gone for more than a week. I can do most of my work from home, so how about Weds?
Your Dearest Friend
My head was spinning after I hit send. I don’t know what the hell I was thinking, but I didn’t care. If my fiance was going to be reckless then so was I. Right or wrong, I just did not care any more.
My Dearest Friend,
See you then! The wait will be endless, but well worth it.
Love Always,
Him